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QUESTION:
How much can I expect to pay for a set of good quality gold wedding rings?
Just the bands for a man and woman.
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ANSWER:
My fiance and I went to an excellent place to get our rings. They are excellent quality and the serivce was the best ever! Also, you tell them your price range, they will show ya a few things, and then if you cant afford it, but you like it...they will call thier main office and see how cheap they can get it for you. It is a good jewlery store with EXCELLENT payment plans and warranty plans. It is Ultra Diamonds Jewlery Store. www.ultradiamonds.com
the price for his comfort fit 4.5 mm thick 14K yellow gold band was 0. The regular price is over 0. Do not go to walmart for your rings. Thier bands are very poor quality.
You wont be disappointed, find a store near you. I will be a lifetime shopper of this store. Great quality for the best prices.
I just absolutly love my wedding set and he loves his band!
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QUESTION:
I was wondering if you can have a white gold engagement ring and a yellow gold wedding ring?
Would it look dumb? tacky? Do they make wedding rings that are both yellow and white gold for both men and woman?
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QUESTION:
What do you think about married men & women who don't wear their wedding rings?
So I know we've all heard that it's bad luck to ever take off your wedding ring and all that jazz, but superstitions aside, what do you think about married people who either don't wear a ring ever, or take it off occasionally?
For example: I am a married woman, and my ring is a three stone engagement ring soddered inside an enhancer/jacket. The result is that the ring fits more snugly than if it was kept as two separate pieces. My hands, like mose people's, swell slightly in the summer, and/or if I am bloated for whatever reason. As a result, I have been taking my ring off for short periods of time, because the feeling woyld range from discomfort to nearly cutting off my circulation. I try to put it back on if I am leaving the house, but sometimes my hands are so swollen I can't get it over my knuckle. I also sometimes take it off if I am cleaning, putting on lotion, or doing something else that might gunk up the ring, because I have a slight case of OCD.
Example two: my husband is a mechanic and takes his ring off at work sometimes. He was married previously and his ex-wife never let him take his ring off. He was working in construction and dropped something heavy on his hand. His ring was crushed into his hand (it was a flimsy white gold band -- from Walmart) and it was extremely painful for hkm to get it off, but he had to so it didn't cut off his circulation and so he could get his finger treated. As a result of this, we were very particular when picking out his wedding band, and got a wider band made out of tungsten, but some jobs, he will still remove his ring so it doesn't get damaged or hurt him.
Neither of us have a problem with the other removing their ring. We feel that the circumstances are understandable, and that the ring might be a symbol of our marriage, but the marriage itself is the love and commitment between us. Does anyone else feel this way? I mean, it's not as though we only remove our rings when we go out to bars or clubs, or because we are ashamed of being married. My parents both take their rings off at night or when working with their hands and have been happily married for thirty years this Oct., so I definitely don't believe any superstitions! What do you think when you hear of people removing their rings?
BQ: When 'checking out' a member of the opposite sex, do you take the time to look for a ring on his/her finger?
Oops, I meant to mention this above:
I'm not, like, stressing about this or anything, I was just mildly curious about what the general opinion is ;-D
Oi, so many edits, lol!
In reference to the third post: I know I don't check out someone's finger to see if they're married. If an attractive man passes by, I might notice that he is attractive, but that's about it. My husband is free to look at whatever woman he pleases (LOOK, not touch, haha), but he is that guy who is more likely to check out a pretty girl's cool car than the pretty girl herself. This marriage was a long time coming (eight years of 'carrying the torch', so to speak), so there's no way we're letting anyone come between us.
I guess I just asked to see if a ring is something people notice. I am more likely to notice a woman wearing a ring than a man, because, well, I am a woman and interested in unique jewelry!
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ANSWER:
I've always kept my ring on...with the exception of some heavy cleaning chores...for ALL THE YEARS of my marriage. It was and is, exquisitely beautiful and it's a rare day that goes by someone doesn't tell me so. My husband, on the other hand? Also a "tinkerer" and the fire dept had to come and "saw" it in half when a couple of fingers got caught when he was working on some plumbing years ago. Never bothered me that he didn't wear it...
I don't "look" for wedding rings on men and women, never did...Now and again though? I'll see a remarkably unusual one and compliment a woman or man on their ring. No big deal.
My husband died several years ago rather young...I STILL wear my beloved wedding ring, only on the other hand, for not only does it symbolize something I never wish to forget in my life? It's an exquisite piece of jewelry!
Grace
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QUESTION:
Can I have your opinion on wedding bands (men & women)????
Hi there. I'm starting plan my wedding. It's sometime away but I was looking at bands tonight and I would like your opinion. My husband to be has told me that he wants his band to be a surprise (so I can't flat out ask him what he thinks) but he doesn't want it to be plain either. Do you have any suggestion as to what I could have put on it or look like? Pictures would be nice but not necessary. We decided that we'd live the diamonds to me, by the way. I was thinking about something like a Celtic love knot or just a Celtic knot. What do you think?
Here is a Celtic knot
http://123celtic-irish-jewelry.com/mall/Rings/TJH_Wedding/RG00733FG_large.jpg
Here is a Celtic love knot
http://123celtic-irish-jewelry.com/mall/Rings/TJH_Wedding/rg00737fg_large.jpg
By the way my ring is in gold. Thank you so much for your answers!
Also I just found this one. . . It's also Celtic. http://www.furthers.com/images/CK08-Purple.jpg
I wish it were a little different but the design I believe is alright.
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ANSWER:
I got a tungsten ring for my husband. He loves it! It's beautiful and durable.
If he likes the celtic stuff, then go for it. I imagine that would be a little too foofy for most guys.
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QUESTION:
How do you buy wedding rings?
and engagement rings too.
Does just the man buy an engagement ring for when he proposes or does the woman buy one too for the man upon being propsed to?
Or how about the actual wedding ring?
Is it just the plain gold or platinum bands?
what costs more & whats the difference?
What kind of ring is supposed to be an engagement ring?
and how does the guy buy it if he doesnt know the size?
well I guess thats a few questions.
can you help me out with them??
NOTHING EXPENSIVE!!!
and none of those brand name stores!
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ANSWER:
Usually only women get engagement rings, but if you wanted to buy a ring for your fiance, then you can surely do that. Actual wedding rings should be purchased together so that you each get the exact ring you want. You can both get the same band, different bands or bands with stones. It all depends on your personal tastes. Anything with stones will cost more than a plain band. A great site that I suggest is www.bluenile.com ... they have a great selection and their customer service is top notch.
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QUESTION:
What is your opinion on stainless steel wedding rings?
First of all, the following link shows an engraved women's ring that I soooooo want =)
http://www.collectiblestoday.com/ct/product/prdid-110204001.jsp?cm_ven=Facebook&cm_cat=ForeverLoveRing-Broad_110204001&cm_pla=PutLoveinMotion_Img-Ctrl-F&cm_ite=F35_REM-KW-None_1Step-N_Broad
My boyfriend likes it for me also... our 2-year anniversary is in mid-June, and he wants to buy it for me then. However, we want to get married on that day, (pending a couple of matters that should hopefully be resolved by then). In which case, I would like for him to have a ring, too. He's flexible to getting one that "matches" the one in the link above, because he likes that particular ring for me (and to be honest, so do I)... But finding/choosing one for him that "matches" is getting kinda hard, because I can't actually "see" the women's ring enough to match it with another.
Ok, the stainless steel wedding rings part comes in because I was trying to match it (again today) with a men's ring, and I'm finding that when researching the women's ring by name ["Our Forever Love"] usually brings up stainless steel rings! (?)
So I was wondering, since I absolutely love silver and not gold, and I have had stainless steel rings in the past and liked them... would it be ok to get stainless steel wedding bands. (I've had them before, but then again I've lost them during my single wild partying years... and so I don't know much about their "durability".)
My questions are... Anyone out there in Y!Land ever go with stainless steel wedding bands??? And if so, do they last? Are they a suitable choice, or a decent alternative? And are they hard to keep clean?
Thanks so much to everyone who contributes!!!
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ANSWER:
Awesome look, IMO. Mine isn't stainless steel but it is pipe cut like in the pic you posted. I agree that it's harder to find a matching engagement band, but not SO much harder...KWIM? It's a fairly popular choice...as far as I know. You need to match it with a flat or flattish engagement band but the band can still have a stone in it if you'd like (or more than one stone).
Excellent choice. No, stainless steel is not hard to keep clean.
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QUESTION:
engagement and wedding rings?
Im a little confused, ok so im talking "traditionally" here, i know the "husband to be" buys the engagement ring without the "wife to be" knowing. But then when the "wife to be" receives the engagement ring does she buy her man one to? Or do men not get engagement rings? And then the wedding rings, do you go together to buy them, are they matching? Or do you go separately and buy them as a surprise for each other. And is the woman's engagement ring supposed to match her wedding ring, and traditionally what do they both look like and are they gold or white gold?
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ANSWER:
The man doesn't have an engagement ring. Just the suprise one for you.
As for wedding rings, usually you would pick them together, and you would get one to go with your engagement ring. whether or not his matches yours is personal choice. Same with which gold to use. whichever you prefer. more people seem to be going with white gold these days, but I prefer yellow gold. Engagement ring has diamonds, the wedding ring sometimes is a plain band or has a few smaller diamonds to go with the engagement ring.
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QUESTION:
wedding rings!!!!!!?
ma friend is loookin 4 wedding rings online so im helpin her if any1 has any idea for a man(platinum) and 4 a woman ( gold or platinum) plz let me noe wit pics plzzz
thnx 4 those who help <33333333
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ANSWER:
Try http://www.zales.com or http://www.kayjewelers.com
Do not, above all else, go to WAL-MART!!! That place is the biggest rip off when it comes to jewelry. Low quality diamonds, bad settings, the works. Told to me by a Wal-Mart employee (the one that works the jewelry counter).
http://www.weddingrings.com
http://www.bluenile.com
Good luck, and if all else fails, try a pawn shop, great deals, good merchandise. Well worth the money.
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QUESTION:
Are all women gold-diggers?
A woman I sit next to at work pays me compliments such as, "you're a really positive person," and "you're really laid back," and, "you're really funny," and "the thing I like about you is. She says these things to the point where it gets embarrassing. However, she is rather beautiful, so I decided to ask her out.
However, before I had the chance to do this, she made comments to other colleagues about finding a single rich man. Fair enough, I thought, I joke about finding a rich woman. Yesterday, though, she asked me if I knew which finger the wedding ring and engagement ring went on, I answered that I really wasn't sure, then she said, "Oh, not that I'm thinking of becoming your wife or anything, you're the perfect work colleague, and women will throw themselves at you once you've reached the top." She has also recently said that I should invite her out to dinner once I'm famous and know lots of celebrities.
This brings out several issues for me. Firstly, by no means have I reached the top. I'm in my mid-thirties and was recently nearly sacked from a high-paying job but got a low-paid agency temp. job instead, just when I could afford my own property and move out of my parent's place. The job I moved to is the one where I met this woman, who is also a temp, doing the same job as me - I think she also left her previous job under dodgy circumstances. She lives in rented accommodation.
Also, I know at least three couples who got together when the man had by no means 'reached the top'. All three still lived with their parents when they met their significant others, who they've all been with for years. One man worked in a pub, and two other men were full-time students - and one of these full-time students recently married girlfriend, who has a management job.
Should a man only find a girlfriend once he's at the top of his career, or should a couple share the journey to success together? I was hurt by what she said, and I want to know what people think.
People tell me I'm fun to be around and a natural entertainer, but I'm at a point where I'm switching careers, but I don't know what career that will be yet and I'm at a point where I don't know who or what or where I am in life. When I was in my teens, while my fellow teens were mentally mapping out when they would buy their properties and how much they'd be earning by a certain age, I was mentally mapping out developing a fun entertaining personality to replace my painfully shy personality, which I'd planned to have by now, so by my own standards, I'm a success, and I'm only just turning my attention to a 'proper' career now as the job I had before was just one I fell into when was earning just enough money to go out and have a good time.
I'm rambling now, but my feelings are strong over this, and I'd like other people's opinions.
Many thanks.
OK - Having read a few answers on here, I don't think the main question should read 'Are all women gold-diggers?' but I only put that because my temper was up, and I apologise for not waiting until I had calmed down.
And, really, I shouldn't have put this on Yahoo Answers, because I do already know the answer, and the only reason I did put it on here is that when she came out with that comment, it was 5:00pm on a Friday and I wanted to leave work, so what she said didn't register, and I'm only irritated now I've had time to sit and think about it - so I decided to have a vent online.
However, please feel free to let my question provoke a healthy discussion on relationships.
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ANSWER:
To answer your subject line (because I haven't had enough coffee yet to peruse your excessively long post) the answer is an easy No. Just like all guys aren't azzholes.
Women make their own money (most do) nowadays...there are fewer gold-diggers than ever actually. A few decades ago women needed men...now we don't (we can take care of ourselves) so we go for men we desire and want to be with, not just someone to support and provide for us.
Hang in there sugar...if you've had some bad experiences get past them. There are over 3 billion females on the planet. PLENTY of good choices available for you. Women have negative experiences with men too...so you're not alone. It takes a while sometimes to find a suitable partner. ☺♥☻
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QUESTION:
how is a man wearing jewelry besides a wedding ring and enjoying art considered gay?
i've always heard from people (usually uber christians or small town people) say that it is gay for men to to wear any kind of jewelry except for a solid gold wedding band with nothing on it and that only gay men enjoy fine art and fashion
well recently my mom has moved up a lot in life and she has taught us to enjoy fine jewelry art and fashion and we will inherit a lot of fine jewelry and art later in life, whenever these people hear about it they laugh or get furious and say that we are not men because art fashion and jewelry are for women and only women
since when?
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QUESTION:
Rings in a relationship?
In a normal relationship, how many rings were there be?
Is this correct
1.commitment ring
2.propsal ring
3. engagement ring
4. wedding ring
give me info on which ring is what type of ring like diamond, gold, etc..and wear at what fingers for men and women. thanx
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ANSWER:
proposal ring, engagement ring, and wedding ring are all the same ring. sometimes there is a casual ring in the relationship beforehand, but not always. they can be whatever material, the wedding ring usually has diamond with a gold/silver loop. all go on the ring or third finger.
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QUESTION:
Ok so what is the BIG deal? Why is he passively bringing up an old issue about wedding rings?
He seems to have a problem with me not wearing my ring now at times. However, I couldn't see why it was a problem because I've had to deal with over 10 years of him doing the same things. So I figured to rest from the issue and make the whole ring thing not such a big deal, so I put his ring in a safe place in the closest so he wouldn't misplace it and I hadn't brought the issue up in quite a while. I didn't see the need to wear mine loyally when he didn't wear his loyally. I started to feel accomodating like I was doing it for him when he didn't beleive to do it for me. So I wear it when I feel it now. Out of sight out of mind is the only way I came to be able to handle this issue.
The argument:
He brought up the issue by default during a conversation that had nothing to do with him wearing his ring. We had just had an awesome time at a movie and laughed our butts off. All I wanted to do was come home and top the evening off with him so to speak. What happened was he just out of the blue started making things up. For a man that claims he doesn't care about rings he stated he noticed I wasn't wearing mine, that sometimes I'd wear it on the right hand or not at all. He stated that he saw I was wearing a ring he brought me a long time ago. The punch line which put me on the defense was when he stated," What so you're trying to be like me and do like how I did, I'm not worried about all of that, it does nothing to me when you don't wear your ring, it means nothing. Marriage is in the heart." Even thought my feelings have been hurt behind this issue in the past I would never purposely try to hurt his. I got defensive after he stated that. Regardless of what it may sound like that's not the reason why I dont wear my ring like I used to. I don't wear ring as often because he has verbally devalued it and I'm not the type of person who needs the diamonds on my hand. It's all about meaning and purpose to me. I could have on a gold band with nothing but inscriptions inside. If he presented it to me with love and care I would wear that ring more than the one with diamonds. It's a sentimental thing that's completely missing from the symbolism of the one I already have. So he's watching me go through changes wearing my ring. The previous statement to me made that obvious.
He then started making comments about my family having an issue with it(which they don't) and that was the reason why I had a problem with him not wearing his. I didn't even bring the issue up and at this point I was starting to feel he had an issue with me not wearing mine but just wasn't going to be honest about it. No one in my family has ever said anything about him not wearing his ring, nor have I asked for advice from anyone up until now on this sight. In disbelief that he would not only throw my family under the bus but accuse me of not being able to think for myself, I told him "I am my own woman," I said ,"and would never bring up a he say she say issue in my home. I own my issues and feelings. I wouldn't need anyone else coerced me to tell my husband Anything." That's what I stated in response to that.
The thing that perplexes me is I had been wearing my ring loyally for 10 years. Looking at my ring makes me feel sad and confused now more than ever. When I don't see mine I think less about him not wearing his which is the reason I stopped bringing the issue to his attention months ago. I am very traditional about marriage, he knows I'm more biblical about itsmeaning. So I was like I'm being phony when I wear my ring w/o the sentiment being blessed over it from God through him. He has devalued the meaning behind my ring as well telling me the real reasons why he felt he should get it, which wasn't your traditional purposes years ago. Now I get the picture that he's bothered possibly by me not wearing mine but he has always had an issue wearing his on and off.
So my question is Why is he tripping now making things up and bringiup an issue that I don't anymore? How many of you are traditional about rings and their symbolism and how many of you aren't? With him I think it's more of a control thing. Shoot away with answer please. I'm a big girl.
IF YOU MADE IT THIS FAR THANK YOU FOR READING MY ENTIRE ISSUE 
Sorry so long
Btw he did say that he would start wearing his ring all the time even though I didn't ask him to or bring It up. I have in the past but ever since I put his ring away he really seems to mention it to me more. He doesn't want to break up. He's just unorthodox about things he's always been. It's one of the things I fell in love with but didn't understand all of his ideals all of the time. He's making future plans for us, a family dog we're purchasing next year and a new home. He doesn't want to break up. The ((ring)) is the issue. He told me he was happily married to me. He says that all of the time. I do believe the issue is bigger than the ring but it's definitely not a sign that he wants to break up.
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ANSWER:
you know him better than we do. We can't get into his head. I would just straight up ask him what his problem is anf if you could work on a solution. Yes from the little I know of him, it sounds like a control issue. He wants you to be marked with a ring but he is free to wear a ring as he pleases. You did nothing wrong. Sounds like he is being passive and dancing around the issue because he doesnt have leg to stand on! He wants you to wear your ring but will not come out and ask or demand you to because he is not reciprocating. Society has been condoning this behavior for years and years, women wear engement rings and men still have no "marking" of being engaged until after the wedding. I would leave it be. You won. Gave him a tatse of his own medicine and it doesnt feel good! If he starts wearing his ring again, say nothing and put yours back on a few days later. Or you can bring it up and have a long drawn out discussion. But either way, he is in no position to demand things or make you feel bad. He is trying to bully you into putting it back on. Don't get sucked in.
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QUESTION:
What to Send MiddleAged man, for romance?
The man I care about is on a military base (stateside), is a civilian MP kinda thing, former Special Forces, and is not fond of jewelry...I want to send him SOMETHING, to have and carry close, until we can be together. As men send JEWELRY to women, what do I send, to this guy? He doesn't wear much (he'll happily wear a white gold wedding ring later), is allergic to scents (colognes and such are CLEARLY out...I'm born on Valentines Day, and neither one of us EVER thought we would trust the opposite sex, again. What do I do?
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ANSWER:
Does he shave? A beautiful razer --a sexy gift he will use every day and think of you, while he's shaving. You can find them at really nice stores for men or with men's departments and order online, eg. Bergorf Goodman (Acqua di ParmaCollezione Barbiere Razor & Stand Price: 0.00) Neiman Marcus (Razor, .00 Blue hand-turned Lucite® handle,Nickel-plated metal trim.Comes with set of three high-quality Gillette® Mach3® blades).
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QUESTION:
Wedding Traditions and especially RINGs!?
We plan to get married by the end of this year, but there are some traditions that are a bit different from what we are used to. We are both immigrants and came from different traditions than are practised here. We think we got most things right, but there is one question we STILL haven't solved. When we ger married, and exchange rings, are those rings supposed to be 'matching' ei. looking the same, except for one of them being thinner than the other? ...or can the woman's ring have a stone(Diamond) and the man's be just gold? When we went to the jewellers, they only showed us matching rings without any stones... What are the actual traditions here?
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QUESTION:
What does the size of a ring matter in a marriage?
I hear so many couples having problems when it comes time to buy a wedding ring. The men are looking for something to say I am married a simple gold band and the woman want Fort Knox. Will a bigger ring make your marriage better? and why do so many people go into debt over a 5 minute wedding ceremony. For those of you who have never attended a wedding or been married yes it is not long at all with the actual bride and groom. Does anyone know the ansewers to these questions? Why not put some of this money into the future of the marriage?
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ANSWER:
No, a bigger ring will do nothing but put standards on your love. Marriage is about sharing a life with someone, not over-extending your bank account. Marriages have become obscenely expensive these days, I agree. I think elopement or an intimate wedding are your best bets. Bring your close friends and family with you to an All-Inclusive resort w/ a wedding package and you're stress-free! For my wedding we are asking for money instead of gifts we don't need, the ceremony will be small and inexpensive and we're going to a family member's vacation home for our honeymoon. It's perfect, I'm with him...and that's all that matters.
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QUESTION:
what does it mean when you dream someone stole your wedding ring?
so I had 2 dreams last night... My first dream I woke up in my bed sleeping face down on my pillow. when I got up my 2 teeth in front were cracked! They weren't completely missing or rotted but it looked like someone hit my teeth and some pieces were missing from my teeth like when you shatter a glass but some of it stays together. Well i go to the ER and ask the woman for help from a dentist. The dentist was a tall dark man. Then In my dream I wake up back at home with one tooth in the center where I had my 2 front teeth. The replacement tooth was thin and unrealistic. I dint even remember going to the room with the dentist to get worked on. So I go back to the ER and confront the nurse by telling her that I didn't remember being worked on and I had no idea how I got home. I told her I was going to sue that dentist and then she tells me "oh the doctor is aware he sent you home without supervision while you were highly medicated and he has been briefed again on our policies." I come home and my late father is talking bad about me and calling me stupid which is not like him. Me and my father were close..... Then I dream I am in a hotel and there is a dark man handing out refreshments. He hands me a cookie and I go sit down to enjoy it. While I am nibbling on my cookie I notice my wedding finger slightly different. I look down and I saw a different ring! Instead of my white gold princess cut 2 crt diamond ring I had a yellow gold S like ring with 2 Solitaire circle diamonds in each slot of the S. Something that is not me at all. I go up to him and say "you stole my ring!" I took the tray of what was cookies.... but now its a tray full of jewelery! rings, nose rings, bracelets and I clear a table that had things on it and empty this tray on the cleared table. I remember opening bags of new jewelery
searching for my ring. I was furious! Then I woke up
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ANSWER:
In your dream you discover in bed that you've lost some of your beauty and personal appeal and are in danger of losing all of it ("my 2 teeth in front were cracked... and some pieces were missing"). You arrange a tryst with a man to restore your (self) image ("ask... for help from a... tall dark man"), then discover in bed (again) that you've been transformed into a sex object ("I wake up back at home with one tooth in the center where I had my 2 front teeth") (if you don't recognize "beaver" as slang for female genitalia then this interpretation is wrong, and there's no point in reading further).
You protest that you are not really a sex object ("The replacement tooth was thin and unrealistic") and disavow all responsibility for the affair ("I dint even remember going to... the dentist", "didn't remember being worked on", "had no idea how I got home"). Your dream obligingly places all blame for the affair on the man ("the doctor is aware he sent you home without supervision while you were highly medicated"). Your conscience, though, blames you ("my late father is talking bad about me and calling me stupid").
The affair was fun, satisfying your sweet-tooth so to speak, but in the end it wasn't very important to you (I am in a hotel and there is a dark man handing out refreshments. He hands me a cookie and I... enjoy it"). Sadly, it cost you your marriage ("While I am nibbling on my cookie I notice my wedding finger slightly different"). Now you are alone, "s"ingle and "s"olitary ("Instead of my... diamond ring I had a... S like ring"). Probably your husband is too - no longer two people sharing one life, you and he lead two separate lives ("Instead of my... 2 crt diamond ring I had a... ring with 2 Solitaire circle diamonds").
You blame your lover for ruining your marriage ("I go up to him and say "you stole my ring!""), and want above all else to reunite with your husband ("I clear a table that had things on it and empty this tray [of rings] on the cleared table"), but can't find any way to do it ("I remember opening bags of new jewelery searching for my ring").
Your dream is a wish fulfillment. (Really!) It absolves you of all responsibility for your affair and for the consequent failure of your marriage, even though in waking life you recognize that you yourself are to blame. That recognition appears in the dream as your father "talking bad about" you. By representing the loss of your marriage as simply the loss of your wedding ring, the dream also diminishes the importance of what's happened and offers the hope that your marital bliss can be complete again if only you can find your missing ring, while in waking life there's probably no chance of reconciliation.
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QUESTION:
How do you feel about police Clerk Charged With Stealing Dead Man's Jewels?
http://wcbstv.com/watercooler/local_story_130211537.html
CBS/AP) NEW YORK A police clerk stole ,000 in jewelry and money belonging to crime suspects and victims, including a dead man’s wedding ring, prosecutors said Thursday.
Kevin Byrd and two others were charged with criminal possession of stolen property, forgery, grand larceny and other counts. Byrd, a civilian New York Police Department employee since 1994, worked as an evidence and property control specialist, keeping track of victims’ and suspects’ belongings and stolen property for the department.
Between October and January, he forged property vouchers and stole several items, including diamond earrings belonging to a suspect and cash that was seized in a counterfeit DVD arrest, prosecutors said.
On Jan. 19, a woman went to Byrd’s precinct to retrieve her dead husband’s gold and diamond wedding ring, which police had taken after responding to the apartment where the man died. Byrd told the woman the ring was missing and later sold it to a Queens pawnbroker, prosecutors said.
Byrd, James Goorahoo and Jermal Williams forged phony cash vouchers to collect money from the property unit, sometimes by pretending to be crime victims whose money had been seized by the department, prosecutors said.
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QUESTION:
Wedding planning, what do you all think about this idea?
My wedding colors are sage green, gold, and light pink. So I was thinking that my flower girls are 3 and 6 so they will wear green colored dresses but just off sage a little more lime, with matching flowers on the dress and gold ribbon around the waste, and a pink ribbon off of the front (it looks really cute). My bridesmaids will wear sage green dresses with gold, and pink accents, my maid of honor will wear a gold dress with sage and pink accents, and our mothers will wear all pink dresses with gold and sage accents. For the men, the ring bearer, our 8 month old son will wear a black velvet tux with a gold shirt, the grooms men or best men will wear gold dress shirts, and black pants, the best man will wear black dress pants and a green dress shirt. and my groom will wear a black tux, with a green shirt and gold tie, and the flowers on his jacket will be light pink baby's breath. This way when the best man and maid of honor walk down together he will be in green, she will be in gold, and when the grooms men and brides maids walk down together the men will be in gold and the women in sage green.Then I was thinking of getting my dress light gold, or with light gold hues, and pink and green accents possibly, and my groom and I and all of the wedding party would be matching opposites. What do you all think? Thanks, and God bless you all.
I was gonna ask our mothers to wear matching dresses because my mother in law is demanding to be in the wedding.
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QUESTION:
wedding bands...?
do both the bands for the man and the woman have to match?
do they have to be the same color?
gold?
titanium?
or can the bride have a gold ring and the groom a silver one?
or can they have rings according to theyre prefferences?
what?
we need help!
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QUESTION:
I need help with poems!!!?
i need to find three literary devices the author uses in these two poems:
"Mirror" by Sylvia Plath
I am silver and exact. I have no preconceptions.
Whatever I see, I swallow immediately.
Just as it is, unmisted by love or dislike
I am not cruel, only truthful –
The eye of a little god, four-cornered.
Most of the time I meditate on the opposite wall.
It is pink, with speckles. I have looked at it so long
I think it is a part of my heart. But it flickers.
Faces and darkness separate us over and over.
Now I am a lake. A woman bends over me.
Searching my reaches for what she really is.
Then she turns to those liars, the candles or the moon.
I see her back, and reflect it faithfully
She rewards me with tears and an agitation of hands.
I am important to her. She comes and goes.
Each morning it is her face that replaces the darkness.
In me she has drowned a young girl, and in me an old woman
Rises toward her day after day, like a terrible fish.
AND this poem:
"Lady Lazarus" by Sylvia Plath
I have done it again.
One year in every ten
I manage it----
A sort of walking miracle, my skin
Bright as a Nazi lampshade,
My right foot
A paperweight,
My face a featureless, fine
Jew linen.
Peel off the napkin
0 my enemy.
Do I terrify?----
The nose, the eye pits, the full set of teeth?
The sour breath
Will vanish in a day.
Soon, soon the flesh
The grave cave ate will be
At home on me
And I a smiling woman.
I am only thirty.
And like the cat I have nine times to die.
This is Number Three.
What a trash
To annihilate each decade.
What a million filaments.
The peanut-crunching crowd
Shoves in to see
Them unwrap me hand and foot
The big strip tease.
Gentlemen, ladies
These are my hands
My knees.
I may be skin and bone,
Nevertheless, I am the same, identical woman.
The first time it happened I was ten.
It was an accident.
The second time I meant
To last it out and not come back at all.
I rocked shut
As a seashell.
They had to call and call
And pick the worms off me like sticky pearls.
Dying
Is an art, like everything else,
I do it exceptionally well.
I do it so it feels like hell.
I do it so it feels real.
I guess you could say I've a call.
It's easy enough to do it in a cell.
It's easy enough to do it and stay put.
It's the theatrical
Comeback in broad day
To the same place, the same face, the same brute
Amused shout:
'A miracle!'
That knocks me out.
There is a charge
For the eyeing of my scars, there is a charge
For the hearing of my heart----
It really goes.
And there is a charge, a very large charge
For a word or a touch
Or a bit of blood
Or a piece of my hair or my clothes.
So, so, Herr Doktor.
So, Herr Enemy.
I am your opus,
I am your valuable,
The pure gold baby
That melts to a shriek.
I turn and burn.
Do not think I underestimate your great concern.
Ash, ash ---
You poke and stir.
Flesh, bone, there is nothing there----
A cake of soap,
A wedding ring,
A gold filling.
Herr God, Herr Lucifer
Beware
Beware.
Out of the ash
I rise with my red hair
And I eat men like air.
each poem needs 3 DIFFERENT literary devices, but you can use the same devices for each poem. but if you found some, please explain and tell me what lines!! thank you sooo much! i really have trouble understanding poems!
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ANSWER:
Since I have no idea if this is for school, I will not answer it, but I will help you.
Literary devices refers to specific aspects of literature, in the sense of its universal function as an art form which expresses ideas through language, which we can recognize, identify, interpret and/or analyze.
Literary devices collectively comprise the art form’s components; the means by which authors create meaning through language, and by which readers gain understanding of and appreciation for their works.
They also provide a conceptual framework for comparing individual literary works to others, both within and across genres. Both literary elements and literary techniques can rightly be called literary devices.
Great poems. Plath is my favorite.
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QUESTION:
What are some examples of figurative language in Lady Lazarus by Sylvia Plath?
I have done it again.
One year in every ten
I manage it----
A sort of walking miracle, my skin
Bright as a Nazi lampshade,
My right foot
A paperweight,
My face a featureless, fine
Jew linen.
Peel off the napkin
0 my enemy.
Do I terrify?----
The nose, the eye pits, the full set of teeth?
The sour breath
Will vanish in a day.
Soon, soon the flesh
The grave cave ate will be
At home on me
And I a smiling woman.
I am only thirty.
And like the cat I have nine times to die.
This is Number Three.
What a trash
To annihilate each decade.
What a million filaments.
The peanut-crunching crowd
Shoves in to see
Them unwrap me hand and foot
The big strip tease.
Gentlemen, ladies
These are my hands
My knees.
I may be skin and bone,
Nevertheless, I am the same, identical woman.
The first time it happened I was ten.
It was an accident.
The second time I meant
To last it out and not come back at all.
I rocked shut
As a seashell.
They had to call and call
And pick the worms off me like sticky pearls.
Dying
Is an art, like everything else,
I do it exceptionally well.
I do it so it feels like hell.
I do it so it feels real.
I guess you could say I've a call.
It's easy enough to do it in a cell.
It's easy enough to do it and stay put.
It's the theatrical
Comeback in broad day
To the same place, the same face, the same brute
Amused shout:
'A miracle!'
That knocks me out.
There is a charge
For the eyeing of my scars, there is a charge
For the hearing of my heart----
It really goes.
And there is a charge, a very large charge
For a word or a touch
Or a bit of blood
Or a piece of my hair or my clothes.
So, so, Herr Doktor.
So, Herr Enemy.
I am your opus,
I am your valuable,
The pure gold baby
That melts to a shriek.
I turn and burn.
Do not think I underestimate your great concern.
Ash, ash ---
You poke and stir.
Flesh, bone, there is nothing there----
A cake of soap,
A wedding ring,
A gold filling.
Herr God, Herr Lucifer
Beware
Beware.
Out of the ash
I rise with my red hair
And I eat men like air.
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QUESTION:
HELP ME PLEASE??? Why are the similes effective in Sylvia Plath's poem Lady Lazarus?
I have done it again.
One year in every ten
I manage it-----
A sort of walking miracle, my skin
Bright as a Nazi lampshade,
My right foot
A paperweight,
My featureless, fine
Jew linen.
Peel off the napkin
O my enemy.
Do I terrify?-------
The nose, the eye pits, the full set of teeth?
The sour breath
Will vanish in a day.
Soon, soon the flesh
The grave cave ate will be
At home on me
And I a smiling woman.
I am only thirty.
And like the cat I have nine times to die.
This is Number Three.
What a trash
To annihilate each decade.
What a million filaments.
The Peanut-crunching crowd
Shoves in to see
Them unwrap me hand and foot ------
The big strip tease.
Gentleman , ladies
These are my hands
My knees.
I may be skin and bone,
Nevertheless, I am the same, identical woman.
The first time it happened I was ten.
It was an accident.
The second time I meant
To last it out and not come back at all.
I rocked shut
As a seashell.
They had to call and call
And pick the worms off me like sticky pearls.
Dying
Is an art, like everything else.
I do it exceptionally well.
I do it so it feels like hell.
I do it so it feels real.
I guess you could say I've a call.
It's easy enough to do it in a cell.
It's easy enough to do it and stay put.
It's the theatrical
Comeback in broad day
To the same place, the same face, the same brute
Amused shout:
'A miracle!'
That knocks me out.
There is a charge
For the eyeing my scars, there is a charge
For the hearing of my heart---
It really goes.
And there is a charge, a very large charge
For a word or a touch
Or a bit of blood
Or a piece of my hair on my clothes.
So, so, Herr Doktor.
So, Herr Enemy.
I am your opus,
I am your valuable,
The pure gold baby
That melts to a shriek.
I turn and burn.
Do not think I underestimate your great concern.
Ash, ash---
You poke and stir.
Flesh, bone, there is nothing there----
A cake of soap,
A wedding ring,
A gold filling.
Herr God, Herr Lucifer
Beware
Beware.
Out of the ash
I rise with my red hair
And I eat men like air.
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QUESTION:
What is the rhyme scheme in this Sylvia Plath poem?
I am very confused. I would really appreciate it if you could explain it to me.
I have done it again.
One year in every ten
I manage it----
A sort of walking miracle, my skin
Bright as a Nazi lampshade,
My right foot
A paperweight,
My face a featureless, fine
Jew linen.
Peel off the napkin
0 my enemy.
Do I terrify?----
The nose, the eye pits, the full set of teeth?
The sour breath
Will vanish in a day.
Soon, soon the flesh
The grave cave ate will be
At home on me
And I a smiling woman.
I am only thirty.
And like the cat I have nine times to die.
This is Number Three.
What a trash
To annihilate each decade.
What a million filaments.
The peanut-crunching crowd
Shoves in to see
Them unwrap me hand and foot
The big strip tease.
Gentlemen, ladies
These are my hands
My knees.
I may be skin and bone,
Nevertheless, I am the same, identical woman.
The first time it happened I was ten.
It was an accident.
The second time I meant
To last it out and not come back at all.
I rocked shut
As a seashell.
They had to call and call
And pick the worms off me like sticky pearls.
Dying
Is an art, like everything else,
I do it exceptionally well.
I do it so it feels like hell.
I do it so it feels real.
I guess you could say I've a call.
It's easy enough to do it in a cell.
It's easy enough to do it and stay put.
It's the theatrical
Comeback in broad day
To the same place, the same face, the same brute
Amused shout:
'A miracle!'
That knocks me out.
There is a charge
For the eyeing of my scars, there is a charge
For the hearing of my heart----
It really goes.
And there is a charge, a very large charge
For a word or a touch
Or a bit of blood
Or a piece of my hair or my clothes.
So, so, Herr Doktor.
So, Herr Enemy.
I am your opus,
I am your valuable,
The pure gold baby
That melts to a shriek.
I turn and burn.
Do not think I underestimate your great concern.
Ash, ash ---
You poke and stir.
Flesh, bone, there is nothing there----
A cake of soap,
A wedding ring,
A gold filling.
Herr God, Herr Lucifer
Beware
Beware.
Out of the ash
I rise with my red hair
And I eat men like air.
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ANSWER:
There is no rhyme scheme as such, but the poet uses slant rhyme (ten/skin/linen, day/me/die, teeth/breath, brute/shout) to suggest a world out of kilter, of things that aren't quite right.
The only time that the rhymes shift into focus and become full rhymes is towards the end, and most noticeably in the last 4-5 lines, underlining the violent conclusion of the piece. Rhymes here = closure.
The conclusion is that death (a suicide presented here as a theatrical or circus act to satisfy the "peanut-crunching crowd") will be an act of revenge on the supposed masters (God/Lucifer/men).
I hope that was clear!
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QUESTION:
Does this poem have any figurative langueage in it? if so where?
I have done it again.
One year in every ten
I manage it--
A sort of walking miracle, my skin
Bright as a Nazi lampshade,
My right foot
A paperweight,
My face a featureless, fine
Jew linen.
Peel off the napkin
O my enemy.
Do I terrify?--
The nose, the eye pits, the full set of teeth?
The sour breath
Will vanish in a day.
Soon, soon the flesh
The grave cave ate will be
At home on me
And I a smiling woman.
I am only thirty.
And like the cat I have nine times to die.
This is Number Three.
What a trash
To annihilate each decade.
What a million filaments.
The peanut-crunching crowd
Shoves in to see
Them unwrap me hand and foot--
The big strip tease.
Gentlemen, ladies
These are my hands
My knees.
I may be skin and bone,
Nevertheless, I am the same, identical woman.
The first time it happened I was ten.
It was an accident.
The second time I meant
To last it out and not come back at all.
I rocked shut
As a seashell.
They had to call and call
And pick the worms off me like sticky pearls.
Dying
Is an art, like everything else.
I do it exceptionally well.
I do it so it feels like hell.
I do it so it feels real.
I guess you could say I've a call.
It's easy enough to do it in a cell.
It's easy enough to do it and stay put.
It's the theatrical
Comeback in broad day
To the same place, the same face, the same brute
Amused shout:
'A miracle!'
That knocks me out.
There is a charge
For the eyeing of my scars, there is a charge
For the hearing of my heart--
It really goes.
And there is a charge, a very large charge
For a word or a touch
Or a bit of blood
Or a piece of my hair or my clothes.
So, so, Herr Doktor.
So, Herr Enemy.
I am your opus,
I am your valuable,
The pure gold baby
That melts to a shriek.
I turn and burn.
Do not think I underestimate your great concern.
Ash, ash--
You poke and stir.
Flesh, bone, there is nothing there--
A cake of soap,
A wedding ring,
A gold filling.
Herr God, Herr Lucifer
Beware
Beware.
Out of the ash
I rise with my red hair
And I eat men like air.
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QUESTION:
How does Sylvia Plath portray society in Lady Lazarus?
I have done it again.
One year in every ten
I manage it----
A sort of walking miracle, my skin
Bright as a Nazi lampshade,
My right foot
A paperweight,
My face a featureless, fine
Jew linen.
Peel off the napkin
O my enemy.
Do I terrify?----
The nose, the eye pits, the full set of teeth?
The sour breath
Will vanish in a day.
Soon, soon the flesh
The grave cave ate will be
At home on me
And I a smiling woman.
I am only thirty.
And like the cat I have nine times to die.
This is Number Three.
What a trash
To annihilate each decade.
What a million filaments.
The peanut-crunching crowd
Shoves in to see
Them unwrap me hand and foot
The big strip tease.
Gentlemen, ladies
These are my hands
My knees.
I may be skin and bone,
Nevertheless, I am the same, identical woman.
The first time it happened I was ten.
It was an accident.
The second time I meant
To last it out and not come back at all.
I rocked shut
As a seashell.
They had to call and call
And pick the worms off me like sticky pearls.
Dying
Is an art, like everything else,
I do it exceptionally well.
I do it so it feels like hell.
I do it so it feels real.
I guess you could say I've a call.
It's easy enough to do it in a cell.
It's easy enough to do it and stay put.
It's the theatrical
Comeback in broad day
To the same place, the same face, the same brute
Amused shout:
'A miracle!'
That knocks me out.
There is a charge
For the eyeing of my scars, there is a charge
For the hearing of my heart----
It really goes.
And there is a charge, a very large charge
For a word or a touch
Or a bit of blood
Or a piece of my hair or my clothes.
So, so, Herr Doktor.
So, Herr Enemy.
I am your opus,
I am your valuable,
The pure gold baby
That melts to a shriek.
I turn and burn.
Do not think I underestimate your great concern.
Ash, ash ---
You poke and stir.
Flesh, bone, there is nothing there----
A cake of soap,
A wedding ring,
A gold filling.
Herr God, Herr Lucifer
Beware
Beware.
Out of the ash
I rise with my red hair
And I eat men like air.
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ANSWER:
Tsk, tsk, tsk. She's talking about how society views her, a suicidal imperfect wife [it was the 1950's] that should be gawked at and outcasted. The last stanza is an allusion to the phoenix on how she is "reborn" every time she tries to kill herself. It's more on her views of herself trying to commit suicide and how she's made fun off because of it. "Them unwrap me hand and foot/The big strip tease./Gentlemen, ladies" and "Nevertheless, I am the same, identical woman." are examples of this. Trust me, our teacher made us read this poem and analyze it for a month. I'll edit this later and add all my analytical notes our teacher made us do.
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QUESTION:
100 awesome facts (star if you like)?
(1) Some worms will eat themselves if they can't find any food
(2) Butterflies taste with their feet.
(3) A duck's quack doesn't echo, and no one knows why.
(4) In 10 minutes, a hurricane releases more energy than all the world's nuclear weapons combined.
(5) On average, 100 people choke to death on ballpoint pens every year.
(6) On average people fear spiders more than they do death.
(7) Ninety percent of New York City cabbies are recently arrived immigrants.
(8) Thirty-five percent of the people who use personal ads for dating are already married
(9) Elephants are the only animals that can't jump.
(10) Only one person in two billion will live to be 116 or older.
(11) It's possible to lead a cow upstairs...but not downstairs.
(12) Women blink nearly twice as much as men.
(13) The Main Library at Indiana University sinks over an inch every year because when it was built, engineers failed to take into account the weight of all the books that would occupy the building.
(14) A snail can sleep for three years
(15) No word in the English language rhymes with "MONTH".
(16) Average life span of a major league baseball: 7 pitches.
(17) Our eyes are always the same size from birth, but our nose and ears never stop growing.
(18) The electric chair was invented by a dentist.
(19) All polar bears are left handed.
(20) In ancient Egypt, priests plucked EVERY hair from their bodies, including their eyebrows and eyelashes
(21) An ostrich's eye is bigger than its brain.
(22) TYPEWRITER is the longest word that can be made using the letters in the same row of the keyboard. (Try it).
(23) A crocodile cannot stick its tongue out.
(24) "Go." is the shortest complete sentence in the English language.
(25) If Barbie were life-size, her measurements would be 39-23-33. She would stand seven feet, two inches tall.
(26) The cigarette lighter was invented before the match.
(27) Americans on average eat 18 acres of pizza every day.
(28) Scientists say the higher your I.Q. the more you dream.
(29) The brain is much more active at night than during the day.
(30) The human brain cell can hold 5 times as much information as the Encyclopedia Britannica
(32) The brain operates on the same amount of power as 10-watt light bulb.
(33) Nerve impulses to and from the brain travel as fast as 170 miles per hour.
(34) 80% of the brain is water.
(35) If the average man never shaved his beard it would grow to over 30 feet during his lifetime, longer than a killer whale.
(36) The Golden Gate Bridge was first opened in 1937.
(37)The Great Wall stretches for about 4,500 miles across North China.
(38) Amish people do not believe in the use of aerosol air fresheners
(39) Annually 17 tons of gold is used to make wedding rings in the United States
(40) If you hold your breath, you will not die. You will faint and start breathing again.
(41) A giraffe can clean its ears with its 21-inch tongue.
(42) The average person laughs 10 times a day.
(43) Sloths take two weeks to digest their food.
(44) There are more than fifty different kinds of kangaroos.
(45) Guinea pigs and rabbits can't sweat.
(46) A man named Charles Osborne had the hiccups for 69 years.
(47) Owls are the only birds who can see the color blue.
(48) Slugs have 4 noses.
(49) The worlds oldest piece of chewing gum is 9000 years old.
(50) It is impossible to sneeze with your eyes open.
(51) Dolphins sleep with one eye open.
(52) Most dust particles in your house are made from dead skin.
(53) Like fingerprints, everyone's tongue print is different.
(54) One quarter of the bones in your body, are in your feet.
(55) You're born with 300 bones, but by the time you become an adult, you only have 206.
(56) Earth is the only planet not named after a god.
(57) More People use blue toothbrushes then red ones.
(58) Human thigh bones are stronger than concrete.
(59) Your statistical chance of being murdered is one in twenty thousand.
(60) In Las Vegas, casinos do not have any clocks.
(61) The total number of steps in the Eiffel Tower are 1665
(62) Fires on land generally move faster uphill than downhill .
(63) If someone was to fly once around the surface of the moon, it would be equal to a round trip from New York to London.
(64) In 1958, the Crayola crayon color "Prussian Blue" was changed to "Midnight Blue" by the request of teachers as kids could not relate to Prussian history.
(65) In China, September 20 is "Love Your Teeth Day."
(66) In Japan, the number four is considered to be unlucky because the Japanese word for four sounds very similar to the word death.
(67) In New York City, approximately 1,600 people are bitten by other humans annually.
(68) India has the most post offices in the world.
(69) One billion seconds is about 32 years.
(70) One gallon of used motor oil can ruin approximately one million gallons of fresh water.
(71) Studies show that divorced women have more trouble starting new relationships than divorced
(71) Studies show that divorced women have more trouble starting new relationships than divorced men.
(72) The Mexican version of the Tooth Fairy is known as the Tooth Mouse, which takes the tooth and leaves treasures in its place.
(73) The average America online user spends 70 minutes day online.
(74) The average day is actually 23 hours, 56 minutes and 4.09 seconds. We ave a leap year every four years to make up for this shortfall.
(75) The average four year-old child asks over four hundred questions a day.
(76) The first Halloween card was created in the 1920's.
(77) The largest diamond found in the United States was a 40.23 carat white diamond.
(78) The longest engagement lasted 67 years, and the couple ended up marrying when they were 82 years old.
(79) If you do not move in quick sand you will float.
(80) The most popular name for a pet in the United States is Max.
(81) The world's oldest rose is located Hildeshiem Cathedral in Germany and is thought to be over 1,000 years old.
(82) There are over 1,000,000 swimming pools in Florida, eventhough the ocean is no farther than 80 miles away.
(83) There is a large brass statue of Winnie-the-Pooh in Lima, Peru.
(84) The average person falls asleep in 7 minutes.
(85) The name Wendy was made up for the book "Peter Pan."
(86) Your stomach has to produce a new layer of mucus every 2 weeks otherwise it will digest itself.
(87) Reindeer like to eat bananas.
(88) The electric chair was invented by a dentist.
(89) More people are killed annually by donkeys than airplane crashes.
(90) In the United States, a pound of potato chips costs two hundred times more than a pound of potatoes.
(91) A giraffe can go without water longer than a camel.
(92) There is a type of coffin made that can be used as a wine rack or picnic table before its final use
(93) 1 out of every 4 kids in the USA is overweight.
(94) Your hair will continue growing after you die until all the cells in your body die
(95) A fetus develops fingerprints at eighteen weeks.
(96) A fetus that is four months old, will becomes startled and turn away if a light is flashed on the mother's stomach.
(97) A human head remains conscious for about 15 to 20 seconds after it is been decapitated.
(98) Studies show that couples that smoke during the time of conception have a higher chance of having a girl compared to couples that do not smoke.
(99) The first known contraceptive was crocodile dung, used by Egyptians in 2000 B.C
(100) A pregnant woman's dental health can affect her unborn child.
Please tell me what you think of my list and if you learned anything new.
-Kenzie (:
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ANSWER:
whoa.. that's nice/ a lot of info... and yes, i noticed the elctric chair thing too XD... i hate spiders, and i will rather kill myself than live among them... no joke... yuk... no ofense for spider lovers... peace/
i asked a friend who's from Lima, Peru and he said he never saw a winnie the pooh brass statue... hehehe.. i think he didn't know it was one
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QUESTION:
Husband looking at women on the net and talking to them...did I handle this well?
My husband was deployed in february of last year. For the first year of our marriage we were together all the time, shared everything, were completely open about every aspect of our lives, and aside from the occassional fight were happily married.
A few days ago I found out that he had recently, like a week ago subscribed to an adult site and been talking to other women and looking at sexy pictures of them.
I confronted him about it when he called and he was angry i had found it but owned up to having registered and been on the site. He told me had a lapse in judgement and that he was sorry.
He then proceeded to delete his porn collection, all the females from his social networks online, gave me the passwords to his email and networks and bought me two white gold and diamond wedding bands that he knows i've been wanting to weld to my engagement ring. he asked me to forgive him and that he wants things to go back to the way they were and for me not to be upset with him. He broke down and i could tell he was very upset with himself.
i am no longer mad, just dissapointed with him. did i handle this well? should we go to marriage counseling when he returns from iraq? men, especially what do you think about this situation.
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ANSWER:
Just the tip of the iceburg.
Welcome to being married in the Army!
Now you see why the divorce rate in the Army is so high.
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QUESTION:
Husband lookign at and talking to other women on the net...did I handle this well?
My husband was deployed in february of last year. For the first year of our marriage we were together all the time, shared everything, were completely open about every aspect of our lives, and aside from the occassional fight were happily married.
A few days ago I found out that he had recently, like a week ago subscribed to an adult site and been talking to other women and looking at sexy pictures of them.
I confronted him about it when he called and he was angry i had found it but owned up to having registered and been on the site. He told me had a lapse in judgement and that he was sorry.
He then proceeded to delete his porn collection, all the females from his social networks online, gave me the passwords to his email and networks and bought me two white gold and diamond wedding bands that he knows i've been wanting to weld to my engagement ring. he asked me to forgive him and that he wants things to go back to the way they were and for me not to be upset with him. He broke down and i could tell he was very upset with himself.
i am no longer mad, just dissapointed with him. did i handle this well? should we go to marriage counseling when he returns from iraq? men, especially what do you think about this situation.
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ANSWER:
Yes, you handled it very well. Yes, you might want to go to counseling. Those guys get influenced a great deal when deployed, it's hard. It's good that you forgave him. You're a good wife!
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QUESTION:
Could you please give me some support and encouragement? I know in my head that I am doing the right thing...?
but in my heart it says he must have been joking, because he couldn't have possibly have done that to you, as well as saying that I love him...work it out...again (1st for cheating though):
Here's the story:
Well, last night the women he was staying with (not the women he is cheating on me with) told me that he was driven there (a 45 minute drive) by a skinny women in a gold car. I was talking to him on the phone and he told me that I had to hold on because he had to take a call that he was getting. It was 2am. He told me that I take middle of the night calls (which living with me for 2 years he knows that there are NO middle of the night calls). I asked who that call was and he wouldn't tell me. What an asshole. In the conversation that I was put on hold for, him and I were discussing getting married (we are engaged), starting a home business together, and restarting our life with a fresh start, and possibly moving somewhere. Then he puts me on hold to talk to some bitch. I am so hurt (I layed in bed crying until I finally cried myself to sleep around 4am) and pissed at him. In the morning of the same day he asked to speak to my kids because they heard his voice and wanted to tell daddy (he was a father to them for 2 years) that they loved him and hello. He got on the phone with them, told them that he loved them, missed them, and that he would be home soon. Then 2am he confesses to me about another women. How could he? I am crushed! I will NEVER be able to trust him again or forgive him. Just think, we lived together for 2 years and were a family...at least I thought we were. What an asshole!
Oh well. Let him do whatever whore (that's what she is because she knew him and I were engaged-one of his work bitches) that he wants to! I am NOT all that, but I sure as hell am better then that. He asked if I was going to see other men now too. I said FUCK NO, you all suck. I would rather be alone because I know that I can at least trust myself! I f I need a sexual release I have toys...you know that since we lived together for 2 years (damn near)! He said I don't beleive you. I said I don't care if you do. I told him that I coudn't believe that he would do that to my kids, me, and our relationship. I told him he was a piece of shit and for him never to worry about me. I said that I will NEVER call him or speak to him ever again! Which I am going to try really hard NOT to speak to him. I want to kick his ass so bad!
Oh well. I knew he was (in my stomach and head) cheating on me...I suspected it...that's why I threw him out! I was right. I am going to hurt for a good long while now, but it is SO going to be worth it in the end, because who needs someone who is going to do that to them? Sure as hell not my kids and me. I knew he was up to something when he called yesterday and said he lost his wedding ring putting on tanning lotion. First of all the it fell off and I don't know where it went shit did NOT fly...hasn't fell off in the last year! And 2nd, he's a white boy (in the sun for more then 5 minutes and he is burnt)! SO fuck him and all of his lies! I will do better...because alone I have NO one telling me what I can and can't do! And I know that I can ALWAYS trust myself!
It is time right now for me to shove my life down his throat so to speak. He hasn't even gotten his GED yet and he is damn near 33 years old! I am in college majoring in psychology. I am in my 2nd year. I am going to finish school, start that cleaning business myself (the one that he was supossed to start and work with me at) and do it alone, and go back to working in the begining of July! I will show him how much I am capable of doing by myself and show him how sucessful I am and he will hopefully realize what he lost! And don't forget when his sleasy ass wants to come crawling back...I am going to say why? I am doing great, go fuck your whore...at least you can do it now without sneaking the bitch behind my back! I don't need your ass for nothing nor do I want it for anything.
Kara
Feel free to email me at KaraLehann1985@yahoo.com if you have personal advice for me that you don't want to share on here.
Thanks again!
To Rose: How did I cause stress on my children? I didn't just shack up with him...we were engaged and living together for 2 years. He CHEATED not me...he caused stress on my children. You are ignorant for even saying that!
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ANSWER:
It doesn't sound like you need much support to me. It's nice to see a women on here that's been hurt but is strong enough to pull herself up and move on.
Living well is definitely the best revenge.
Good luck honey!
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QUESTION:
In this poem, where was Natasha for the three days she was gone?
For three days Natasha
The merchant’s daughter,
Was missing. The third night,
She ran in, distraught.
Her father and mother
Plied her with questions.
She did not hear them,
She could hardly breathe.
Stricken with foreboding
They pleaded, got angry,
But still she was silent;
At last they gave up.
Natasha’s cheeks regained
Their rosy colour,
And cheerfully again
She sat with her sisters.
Once at the shingle-gate
She sat with her friends
-And a swift troika
Flashed by before them;
A handsome young man
Stood driving the horses;
Snow and mud went flying,
Splashing the girls.
He gazed as he flew past,
And Natasha gazed.
He flew on. Natasha froze.
Headlong she ran home.
‘It was he! It was he!’
She cried. ‘I know it!’
I recognized him! Papa,
Mama, save me from him!’
Full of grief and fear,
They shake their heads, sighing.
Her father says: ‘My child,
Tell me everything.
If someone has harmed you,
Tell us … even a hint.’
She weeps again and
Her lips remain sealed.
The next morning, the old
Matchmaking woman
Unexpectedly calls and
Sings the girl’s praises;
Says to the father; ‘You
Have the goods and I
A buyer for them:
A handsome young man.
‘He bows to no one,
He lives like a lord
With no debts nor worries;
He’s rich and he’s generous,
Says he will give his bride,
On their wedding-day,
A fox-fur coat, a pearl,
Gold rings, brocaded dresses.
‘Yesterday, out driving,
He saw your Natasha;
Shall we shake hands
And get her to church?’
The woman starts to eat
A [pie, and talks in riddles,
While the poor girl
Does not know where to look.
‘Agreed,’ says her father;
‘Go in happiness
To the altar, Natasha;
It’s dull for you here;
A swallow should not spend
All its time singing,
It’s time for you to build
A nest for your children.’
Natasha leaned against
The wall and tried
To speak – but found herself
Sobbing; she was shuddering
And laughing. The matchmaker
Poured out a cup of water,
Gave her some to drink,
Splashed some in her face.
Her parents are distressed.
Then Natasha recovered,
And calmly she said:
‘Your will be done. Call
My bridegroom to the feast,
Bake loaves for the whole world,
Brew sweet mead and call
The law to the feast.’
‘Of course, Natasha, angel!
You know we’d give our lives
To make you happy!’
They bake and they brew;
The worthy guests come,
The bride is led to the feasat,
Her maids sing and weep;
Then horses and a sledge
With the groom – and all sit.
The glasses ring and clatter,
The toasting-cup is passed
From hand to hand in tumult,
The guests are drunk.
Bridegroom
‘Friends, why is my fair bride
Sad, why is she not
Feasting and serving?’
The bride answers the groom:
‘I will tell you why
As best I can. My soul
Knows no rest, day and night
I weep; an evil dream
Oppresses me.’ Her father
Says: ‘My dear child, tell us
What your dream is.’
‘I dreamed,’ she says, ‘that I
Went into a forest,
It was late and dark;
The moon was faintly
Shining behind a cloud;
I strayed from the path;
Nothing stirred except
The tops of the pine-trees.
‘And suddenly, as if
I was awake, I saw
A hut. I approach the hut
And knock at the door
-Silence. A prayer on my lips
I open the door and enter.
A candle burns. All
Is silver and gold.’
Bridegroom
‘What is bad about that?
It promises wealth.’
Bride
‘Wait, sir, I’ve not finished.
Silently I gazed
On the silver and gold,
The cloths, the rugs, the silks
From Novgorod, and I
Was lost in wonder.
‘Then I heard a shout
And a clatter of hoofs …
Someone has driven up
To the porch. Quickly
I slammed the door and hid
Behind the stove. Now
I hear many voices …
Twelve young men come in,
‘And with them is a girl,
Pure and beautiful.
They’ve taken no notice
Of the ikons, they sit
To the table without
Praying or taking off
Their hats. At the head,
The eldest brother,
At his right, the youngest;
At his left, the girl.
Shouts, laughs, drunken clamour …’
Bridegroom
‘That betokens merriment.’
Bride
‘Wait, sir, I’ve not finished.
The drunken din goes on
And grows louder still.
Only the girl is sad.
‘She sits silent; neither
Eating nor drinking;
But sheds tears in plenty;
The eldest brother
Takes his knife and, whistling,
Sharpens it; seizing her by
The hair he kills her
And cuts off her right hand.’
‘Why,’ says the groom, ‘this
Is nonsense! Believe me,
My love, your dream is not evil.’
She looks him in the eyes.
‘And from whose hand
Does this ring come?’
The bride said. The whole throng
Rose in the silence.
With a clatter the ring
Falls, and rolls along
The floor. The groom blanches,
Trembles. Confusion …
‘Seize him!’ the law commands.
He’s bound, judged, put to death.
Natasha is famous!
Our song at an end.
(DLS) although they have engraved names on both..can those names be removed?